RELAX ITS
GOING TO BE OK…
Why do we
get so irritated when things don’t go away? Why is it that as human beings we
get frustrated over the things we cannot control? We put ourselves under so
much pressure. Well hey maybe because we believe we are masters of the
universe, the world is our oyster right? . When you go on about in your way and things don’t pen out the way you
had envisioned, how could you have possibly known that the outcome will lead to
heartache and pain? Of course you didn't, you just did at the time what made
sense to you, otherwise why would you set yourself up like that?
There are so many things
in life that have left me exhausted, exhausted because I had gone over them over
and over asking myself how could I have
been so DUMB?
I mean it
was obvious that to anyone with a brain that “THIS” will not work out!!! WHAT
THE HELL WAS I THINKING! What I failed
to realize during this “you are such a moron session” was that the reason I was
able to point out the errs in my judgement was because I was not the same
person I was when I acted “stupidly”, I had shed that skin, I was a new being
now, I had grown and matured, and this was evident because I was able to look
back and question the motives behind my actions. I had gained new powers and had new insight; I
had new formed understanding of who I was …
The only
problem was that I couldn't realize the strength that was brought on by those
moments of weaknesses or errors in judgement, because I was beating myself up
for not knowing what’s going to happen next. How insanely arrogant is that? In the
grand scheme of things who the hell am i?
I will always be thankful for the day I stopped judging myself and treating
myself unfairly, it was as though a load was lifted from my shoulders, I was
able to look myself in the mirror and see me for who I was not the mistakes I had
made, I started to look at myself through my mother’s eyes, you know how your
mother will love you regardless and see the best in you even when you fail?! That
wisdom that mothers have come with years and years of trial and error, they
know through miscalculations and misguided actions that in the end things
always work out, Stop beating yourself up. I began to love myself, really love myself,
not the idea of me, but the person I was within when I’m not trying to fit into
societal molds It’s amazing what self-love can do, it can open you up to a
world you never knew existed, a world where you are human. Human in a sense that you are not a supreme
being, you don’t have all the answers, at any given moment the only thing you
can do and are able to do is your best, nothing more, nothing less.
Sometimes we
choose to do less than we are capable of doing because our hearts are not in
whatever is keeping us busy at the time, so our focus is in turn split. One of
the things that have been revealed to me during my quiet moments is that we
always, always know what’s best for us, the only problem is that often times we
ignore what we know for sure, we suppress our needs so that we can please others
or gain favour with the masses, then we go out of character. Sometimes you haven’t really experienced life,
therefore you are unable to connect the dots, for instance you should know that
if you want to have kids that will, let’s say help you in your old age, you
should take care of them now, nurture them and shower them with love, teach
them about love and generosity through your actions, when they are older they
will be to you what you were to them. You will be able to cultivate from them what
you planted…That is the connection.
The wonderful
thing with being human is that we are blessed with a functioning brain that is
able to think critically, the only catch is that you have to train it to think
all the time, to question, probe and seek knowledge far beyond what it can
currently comprehend. It’s OK that you don’t have all the answers that the only
thing you know for certain is that you are alive at that present moment, as I’m
writing this that’s what I know for sure , that i am alive, what I choose to do
with this knowledge is what the world looks at and in turn judges us on. The mere
existence of this knowledge counts for nothing, if I am not willing to use it
to my advantage, I don’t even have to have special abilities, those I can learn
along the way, what is needed is the willingness to learn , to be teachable to
improve.
Everything in
the world came into existence because someone thought of it. They thought about
it and set on the path of making this thought tangible, they didn't have a
crystal ball showing them exactly how things were going to pen out for them;
they just went with what they knew for sure in their hearts. The recognition by
the others is purely coincidental, because one doesn't always get recognition
for their efforts, this shouldn't deter you from bringing forth what lies
beneath, when the moment is right and the stars have aligned the accolades will
follow, it’s just that sometimes you may not be alive to busk in the glory, you
fulfilled your purpose, its legacy will be the spoils enjoyed by your seeds.
Part of the
reason life is so stressful is due to the fact that we want to control every
single aspect of our lives, we want to know what is going to happen next, we
want to strategize our next move, macro manage everything life throws at us,
and wonder why we are bodies are imbibed
with aches and pains. We forget to just BE, lead a life of always doing, we are
encouraged to be movers and shakers, to be thought leaders, to develop new
ideas and be innovators, but no one is encouraging us to just BE. It’s all good and well to be great but
sometimes you just need to be...BE ALIVE..BE HAPPY… just
BE and breathe.
You know
that feeling of relief you get when you breathe in and out, and let go of every
single thing that you have been carrying with you along the way? That feeling
of release that is what being human is at its most basic level. Inhaling in the
goodness and exhaling what no longer serves us, now we do the opposite we
breathe in some good and we forget to exhale what we no longer require., over time
our system begins to slow down, because it can no longer function at its optimum level, all the baggage we have as nooks
around our necks begins to suffocate us, our breathing starts to get shallow as
a result, we experience pain with every breath taken , we get sick, burn out,
fall into a depression, we in turn
resort to using substances to help us cope but somehow nothing changes. Nothing will change until such a time we let go
of all the toxins (in whatever shape or form) harming us.
Letting go
is by no means giving up, letting go is a gift of freedom you give yourself to say
did my best, and at this point I don’t have the knowledge or the resources to
handle THIS, when I know better I will do better. For now I have given it my
all, I need to regroup, remove myself from the situation and see if I won’t
gain new insight, and during this process , the words that you should be murmuring
to yourself as you try a new path is that RELAX ITS GOING TO BE OK… A phoenix rising always rises from its ashes, with no scars or blemishes... ;)
