WHO ARE YOU SLEEPING WITH???

Did you read the caption on the picture, do you believe it to be true?? Think about this for a sec..When you meet someone new and they interest you, and you start to imagine how being with them intimately will feel like, what are the key factors you take into considerations? Do you ever wonder about that person’s aura, their energy or the karma that they are carrying around or are you just mesmerized by the aesthetics?

We are told that the minute you have sex with someone you also sleep with everyone they have ever slept with and their energies also become part of who you are. That is such a hard pill to swallow, a hard truth if you may, now you start to wonder why things aren't going your way, everything just seems to be going wrong and you always have this deep heaviness that you can’t attribute to anything specific. You know deep inside that you need a cleanse of some sort, detox the system maybe you will feel renewed.

 When things aren't going your way do you ever think that it could because of all your sexual escapades? There is always energy being transferred in our daily lives, when you partner embraces you, for the rest of the day you will feel on top of the world, they have shared their positive energy with you. The opposite happens when you fight with them, you will be affected by their negativity, the tone for the day will be set by that one experience and from then on everything will seem to be going haywire. Unless of course if you consciously change your mood, either through music or by calling friend and ranting about your partner to them. The negative energy has to be transferred.

It makes sense then that when you sleep with someone who is karmically loaded, you absorb all that baggage they are carrying with them and it now forms part of who you are.  It fills up the crevices within you that have been left empty, molds itself to the contours of your being and settles. I have learned in the years I have dealt with human beings outside of my parents realm and influence, that there is more to a person than meets the eye, we are not defined by our physical attributes only, there is the spiritual, the mental and the emotional states that should also be taken into consideration. Everything is connected; this is why stress can make us physically ill and for healing to occur the body must find its balance again, you need to quiet the mind, meditate and the back pain will go away.

It’s funny how we are so weary to let strangers through the door to our houses, but we don’t seem to mind as much when it comes to sexual partners.  Very few of us think of it as a merging of souls, we allow others to invade our being for a roll in the hay. Think about it this way whenever you met someone and the two of you didn't gel, it’s because your auras couldn't blend, your energies were not on par with each other. This is why you couldn't open yourself up to them, it’s not a coincidence it’s your spirit warding off what could possibly be turmoil that will leave you worse off than you were to begin with. In conclusion  word to the wise always listen to what your spirit tells you… your third eye is not limited to physicality, it penetrates the soul.

Always remember you are a spirit in a physical form…

It’s all love…

MOMMY I'M SORE...

 Nothing sends shivers down my spine than hearing my daughter utter those words, immediately my stomach will be in knots and I will jump up to find out what made her sore, only to find out that she scrapped her knee or something minor like that. The reality is that somewhere in South Africa there is a child that cried like that to their parent, only it wasn't just a scrapped knee, they had been violated and by someone they probably knew and trusted, someone they never envisioned would ever harm them. We live in a society where a week won’t go by and one doesn't hear about how a little girl was raped and murdered, quite frankly we live in hell. This had me thinking how does a parent begin to teach their child about rape, how does one “rape-proof” their child against the monsters that are lurking out there but happen to have friendly faces?

As a parent we have the daunting task and responsibility of teaching our kids about sex, what it is biologically, why people have it, the effects it has on people emotionally.Teaching them in a manner that lets them know that sex is not a shameful thing. It is natural act two adults can enjoy when they both consent to it. When you have successfully done this and your child has understanding to a point of what sex is and where babies come from, you now have to explain rape to them.

 There is no set profiling that one can use currently to warn kids against perpetrators, it can be anyone, there aren't any signs to really look out for, as we have seen in recent news, the profile of the perpetrator changes every time, even kids as young as 7 are raping their peers. My mind cannot begin to fathom how that is even possible, not just the act but what would cause a child to resort to such, what is happening in their world?  You now have to teach your kids to be weary of anyone, keep a safe distance, because it’s not just their peers who are possible perpetrators but  people they trust and love too(relatives/family members) as well as  people who are supposed to come to their defense and protect them (police, teachers ,priests). Where do you start, how do you make a child understand all this without messing with their mind? Who should they trust when “everyone” is basically suspect?

 As much as we would like, we cannot always be there hovering over our kids, ensuring that no harm befalls them, they have to go outside and play with their friends, be kids, and locking them in the house is not a solution. We are now forced to live in paranoia just to be “safe”. I cannot even begin to imagine the outrage, disbelief, pain and guilt a parent feels when something as horrendous as this happens to their child. How do you first of all explain WHY this happened, WHAT did they do to deserve such brutality? How does one “normalize” their world once more after such an act has been committed against them, how do you begin to heal when you want vengeance?

When I was a child I didn't understand when I used to hear people say the world is a cruel, cold place to live in, I believed it was an exaggeration of sorts said by people who only focus on what’s negative, but the truth of the matter is that it is not, the violence is not out there somewhere and the perpetrators are not somewhere lurking where they can’t find us, they are living among us, with us, riding in the same buses, trains and taxis as us, watching our every move. The tragic part is having to explain this to kids, who are naturally trusting, we have to explain to them, things we don’t even understand ourselves, I don’t know why there are people who rape, we have been told it’s a power thing, it’s not entirely about the sex. There are just so many variables to it, what breaks my heart is that as a parent I have to start the process of “eroding” my child’s innocence for her own good, telling her there are bad people out there who may have intentions of bringing harm to her, for reasons I don’t know or understand myself. This is what  these monsters have done, they have us doing their dirty work, because they never explain themselves or take accountability for their actions, now we have to lose our minds trying to make sense of why did (they do) what they did. we have to account for them.

I am all for teaching kids that life is not all about sunshine and rainbows sometimes bad things happen beyond our control ,I'm all about teaching them to take care of themselves and to be careful when playing not to hurt themselves (break their arm) or others. But I am not for teaching kids to be careful not to get raped whilst out playing, unfortunately my hands are tied with this one as we live in violent societies , where communicating such with your kids is the responsible thing to do, every parent has to now  “rape-proof” their child. 

The HOW part is what seems to escape me at this point, how do I begin to explain something I don’t understand myself?! How do I tell her that there are people who have no understanding of what the word NO means, and such people will most probably not heed her plea for mercy, where do I begin?. As a woman I live my life trying not to be a victim of a violent crime, so far it hasn't happened, but  for how long will I be so “lucky” I have no idea I haven’t “brought’ any harm unto myself? That’s what we are teaching our kids isn't it, it’s their responsibility to ensure their safety, and if it happens that they are victimized, THEY dropped the ball, “they allowed” the crime to happen. This is the burden the weak and defenseless carry, until when I ask, until when? When will the guilty be held accountable ad persecuted without us first making excuses for them? Until such a time comes, the onus is on you!

Love or sex??

I was facebookin earlier today and i saw a status by some gal sayn"she wants to fuck for fun"that comment had me thnking.more and more women are expressing such views lately,they are breaking the norm,following their desires and to a point acting like "men".
are men to blame for the recent actions of women?or hav we always been this way we just plucked up enough courage to be ourselfs or are we just lying to ourselves by thnking such behaviour wil ever be acceptable by society.
it is clear that of late women go into relationships just for the pleasure of sexual pleasure,where they dont expect love,kids,a house a cat,dog and a goldfish..they are just after the thrill of an encounter with a man they probably just met.
for the other majority that want what society expects us to have as a true definition of a well balanced life,what matters to them most in relationships??and if people were made to choose between LOVE AND SEX which one would they place the most value on.would they rather be with someone whom they love and who loves them back bt doesnt reli satisfy their sexual needs or they would rather hav the best sex dependin on what that entails for each individual and minimal emotinal fulfilment.
are we driven by the same thngs as men and women or are somethngs due to preferance,enviroment or nature.do we all gravitate towards the same thngs and is itthe response that differs?for that select few that have the best of both worlds what secrets arent they sharin with everyone else.will we eva get to a point where wmen wont be crucified for their sexuality and men nt mocked for their comitnent to1woman.wil we eva live to see the day were our eyebrows wnt be raised when a woman says she just wants to "fuck for fun" n nt atribute her decision to low morals,bad influence or delusion.or is that all farfetched?