I love this...

I saw this on the net and I just thought its one of the simplest things I have ever read, that bear a powerful message. A lot of times we don't realize the impact of our words or our behaviour when we deal with our loved ones, this is why we have to always check ourselves, are we acting in love, or are our actions hateful?! A lot of times we get too caught up in ourselves and in what we want, that we lose sight of what matters, we teach people lessons we don't want them to learn and end up representatives of the very things we hate.


So the next time you need or have something to say to someone, check yourself, your tone, your body language and your words. Always act from a place of love, at least try.

Its all love...

Love oh love, is it really that elusive or it just people who are complicated? I have always been a lover of  love whether I was in love or not, I think and believe that it is beautiful and when it is with the right person, it can be the most nurturing and fulfilling experience in the world. As we get older we realize that love isn't so much material things that a person gives you, like one thought during our teen years, there is more to it than that. There is a lot of responsibility that comes with love, and the minute you utter those words to someone you should be aware that there are certain things that are going to be expected of you.

I have personally learned a lot through loving and being loved, I have learned that the times I thought I was being loving , I was actually selfish and self-involved, thinking only of what I wanted , how I felt and what I wasn't willing to do . I have matured since then and I am continuing to, and for that I feel blessed, a lot of things are really a case of making a decision and sticking to it, realizing that when you are content with who you are, it becomes easier for you to share who you are with those that you love. I was chatting to one of my friends and she was telling me how she has given up on love, "its more trouble than it’s worth", she is done, clearly relationships aren't for her.

Well I personally thought she was being extreme, but I can’t really judge that, I don’t really know what she has been through and what her experiences were so I can’t really have an opinion. I can only share with her what I believe, it doesn't mean what I’m saying is right, it is just my experiences. I feel that a lot of times as women we are judged unfairly, you will hear women saying that “you don’t need a man in your life; you can make it on your own”. The same women will turn around and pity you for not having a man, “what could possibly be wrong with you, that you can keep a man?!” we judge each other so harshly and we lack understanding, we are quick to condemn and name call before we seek understanding, which is really sad. When you have reached a certain age and you don’t have a ring on your finger, it’s a shock to others, you can be successful and capable, but there will always be people that feel you are going out of your way to convince the world that you are happy.

I know that there are people who are evolved and deal with an individual on a one on one basis, they don’t have preconceived notions of what happiness, love, and a family should be. They understand that we live in a world where people make rules that suit them that they are comfortable with, and they take it from there. A lot of times we give up in the things we really want cause someone had an opinion bout us that didn't sit well with us, and we decided to alter our beliefs so that we don’t get judged. I believe the saddest thing a person can ever do is to give up on love, because I believe when you say that you are just lying to yourself. We all want to be part of something larger than life, that make us lose ourselves and be fearless, believing that anything is possible, all you have to do is to believe it and try it, give it your all and see what happens.

Life doesn't happen the same way to all of us, the same with love, we experience it at different stages in our lives, for others it seems to come by easily and for others it’s a struggle. This by no means that there are people who don’t deserve to experience love, and people who think or believe that there is a blueprint for this kind of thing are closed minded. We may travel the same road but our paths are different, we have similarities but we are not pushed by the same things, we are after all individuals, who wish to find someone that will encourage us to speak our minds, be bold, conquer the world without fear of rejection. Love is beautiful, I love it, may be I’m just a hopeless romantic, but that’s what we are made of, at the core of our souls we are love.

 Its all love…

You must learn to say thank you...

 We have all heard this before, how we must learn to be appreciative of others not only that but express it to them as well. Ideally we should all  be grateful, seeking things in our daily lives that we are most grateful about, big or small. Focusing only on what is positive and fulfilling and not fretting over things/ people we have no control over. Realizing when we have won (personal struggles), and not continuing to fight even though victory is ours. Sometimes we don’t even realize when we have reached certain milestones, because we never pause long enough to take in the goodness and immense ourselves in it.

 I also believe that this is very important for any and every relationship to work, whether it’s between friends, lovers or a parent and their child. We cannot just assume that someone knows that they are loved and appreciated; we need to affirm it to them, so that they may continue to be great and not get discouraged. As people we have an innate need to impress, especially to people that mean the world to us, and when our loved ones, recognize our efforts, nothing is more valuable. It also teaches us not to be selfish and self-involved, assuming that we are doing it on our own, when there are people who are contributing to us achieving our goals and making a success of our varied endeavours.

I have decided to consciously be aware of all the goodness that surrounds me, to acknowledge all the wonderful people God has blessed me with , and to not just think it but to share it with them as well. Even the most insignificant thing, can brighten up someone’s day,change their view of the world and whatever negative thoughts and feelings they may have concluded about people. You can never truly know how heartfelt your thank you will be appreciated by someone unless you say it, don't over think it just do it. That's how we sometimes mess up, we over think too much, and end up not doing what we had intended.

If you wake up each day appreciative of the fact that you had a good night sleep and you take it from there, there is very little that can happen that will set you off and put you in a bad mood, that is not to say life won’t happen , it always does. There are also all the negative voices that talk down on anything positive that you may be intending on doing, they too will always be there, don’t fret, just learn how to quiet and eventually silence them. This is why we have to be conscious in our daily lives, be present and aware; experience every rhythm, sensation feeling, so that nothing ever catches us off guard. Take each day as it comes, take in every lesson it brings with it, discard whatever negative feeling/issue/person that doesn't serve you or contribute to your overall wellbeing and continue being grateful.

I’m thankful for today and that I was able to share this with all of you, thankful that God continues to show himself in this life he has blessed me with, he remains faithful. Thankful for my family their support that encourages me and their unconditional love that reassures me and strengthens me when I’m weary and overwhelmed. They keep me grounded. I am thankful for what is and what is still to come.

Its all love…