Love oh love, is it really that elusive or it just people who are complicated? I have always been a lover of  love whether I was in love or not, I think and believe that it is beautiful and when it is with the right person, it can be the most nurturing and fulfilling experience in the world. As we get older we realize that love isn't so much material things that a person gives you, like one thought during our teen years, there is more to it than that. There is a lot of responsibility that comes with love, and the minute you utter those words to someone you should be aware that there are certain things that are going to be expected of you.

I have personally learned a lot through loving and being loved, I have learned that the times I thought I was being loving , I was actually selfish and self-involved, thinking only of what I wanted , how I felt and what I wasn't willing to do . I have matured since then and I am continuing to, and for that I feel blessed, a lot of things are really a case of making a decision and sticking to it, realizing that when you are content with who you are, it becomes easier for you to share who you are with those that you love. I was chatting to one of my friends and she was telling me how she has given up on love, "its more trouble than it’s worth", she is done, clearly relationships aren't for her.

Well I personally thought she was being extreme, but I can’t really judge that, I don’t really know what she has been through and what her experiences were so I can’t really have an opinion. I can only share with her what I believe, it doesn't mean what I’m saying is right, it is just my experiences. I feel that a lot of times as women we are judged unfairly, you will hear women saying that “you don’t need a man in your life; you can make it on your own”. The same women will turn around and pity you for not having a man, “what could possibly be wrong with you, that you can keep a man?!” we judge each other so harshly and we lack understanding, we are quick to condemn and name call before we seek understanding, which is really sad. When you have reached a certain age and you don’t have a ring on your finger, it’s a shock to others, you can be successful and capable, but there will always be people that feel you are going out of your way to convince the world that you are happy.

I know that there are people who are evolved and deal with an individual on a one on one basis, they don’t have preconceived notions of what happiness, love, and a family should be. They understand that we live in a world where people make rules that suit them that they are comfortable with, and they take it from there. A lot of times we give up in the things we really want cause someone had an opinion bout us that didn't sit well with us, and we decided to alter our beliefs so that we don’t get judged. I believe the saddest thing a person can ever do is to give up on love, because I believe when you say that you are just lying to yourself. We all want to be part of something larger than life, that make us lose ourselves and be fearless, believing that anything is possible, all you have to do is to believe it and try it, give it your all and see what happens.

Life doesn't happen the same way to all of us, the same with love, we experience it at different stages in our lives, for others it seems to come by easily and for others it’s a struggle. This by no means that there are people who don’t deserve to experience love, and people who think or believe that there is a blueprint for this kind of thing are closed minded. We may travel the same road but our paths are different, we have similarities but we are not pushed by the same things, we are after all individuals, who wish to find someone that will encourage us to speak our minds, be bold, conquer the world without fear of rejection. Love is beautiful, I love it, may be I’m just a hopeless romantic, but that’s what we are made of, at the core of our souls we are love.

 Its all love…