I can’t say I have ever heard his question being asked
before, and if I did I probably don’t remember the answer to it as its not
frequently asked. I was listening to the radio the other day and this guy was
complaining about how us women treat
men, I know what you are probably thinking but no it wasn't one of those
discussions where women are blamed for how men conduct themselves in society.
This guy was saying women generally tend to think that men are the same and
that they love sex and will do anything for it; basically men will sleep with anything
that has a pulse. Well I am a woman and I will admit we have been led to think
that way, not our fault though, it’s generally how the male species carries
itself and engages with the opposite sex, a lot of men fall into this category
that doesn't include all men, but most of them do, unashamedly so .
He was relaying to the listeners how he met a wonderful
girl, whom he was intending to get serious with, went out on a date with her,
everything was just perfect like it had been scripted somehow, he couldn't have
asked for a more relaxed intimate night. Well that was until they ran into one
of his “acquaintances”, I say
acquaintances because he said he knew the girl, was friendly with her but
nothing ever happened between them, and the manner in which he explained how he
knew her,it sounded like he hasn't uttered more than 10 words to her. This girl
upon seeing the guy with his lady friend literally jumped out of her skin and came
over to greet him, she paid no mind to what was happening and decided to impose
herself on them, she was so happy to see him that she couldn't help it but get
all grabby. The guy of course didn't appreciate all this unwarranted attention
he was receiving from the acquaintance as he was happy with the attention his
love interest was showering him with, he didn't especially appreciate it as it
was sending to the wrong message to his date.
The girl eventually left them alone but not before she told
him he should stop being a stranger, and come by for a visit, she misses him, and
just like that she managed to throw sand all over that spark that was being
ignited, the mood obviously changed after that. Well I don’t know about you but
is that something you would say to someone who is just an acquaintance after
you just felt them up in front of their date? Maybe, maybe not, all I know is
that a person wouldn't just be that familiar with you, unless if you have lead
them to believe that it was OK in the past, even so called psychos usually have
something to work with that the guy might have said or done, it doesn't matter
if he was joking or not, he gave her something that made her believe that they
were more than just acquaintances. The date came to an end and they both went
their separate ways. At this point the guy was beside himself with anger, he didn't understand how that girl could have acted that way when it was clear as
day light that he was on a date, clearly she forgot to read the memo,
especially the part where it states acceptable forms of PDA’ S between
acquaintances *chuckles*. He further explained how he is a guy who respects himself and he
just doesn't sleep around with very woman that looks his way, this is why he
hates the insinuation that all men conduct themselves that way,that they are just
aching to have sex that they don’t think about repercussions of their said
behavior…
He attempted to contact his love interest after that night,
and at first she didn't take any of his calls he finally managed to get a hold
of her and she told him how she was not interested in men who have turned
sleeping around into a sport, who believe that bed hopping is attractive, and
give in to their every whim without sparing a thought to think about how their
current actions will affect or impact their future ,she is not impressed by
such behavior,and she has dealt with that in her life and she knows she doesn't want
that type of men messing with her mind, body and heart. She was not interested
in him and he should please lose her number, dram is what she stays clear off, and clearly he is marinated in it.. He was mortified to say the least, he wasn't expecting any
of that he thought he will be able to explain himself,they will laugh about it
and pick up where they left off, but she wasn't budging. The acquaintance had
ruined things for him, but was it really the acquaintances fault though? Before
you get all excited hear me out, the girl only carried out what had been
established between her and the guy, she didn't do anything that they hadn't done before, but now because the guy wasn't willing to go down that route with
her, he was insulted by her actions, as he was busy trying to win over the affections
of a girl he fancied, anyway... The love interest was clearly not impressed and made no
secret of it, she wasn't going to be visited by the “ghost of girlfriends/one night
stand/booty call past”, she wanted a man she will be proud to call her own,
who other women will be envious of her because of what they share, but if a man
has slept around, every woman he has slept with believes they have stake on him
and if they wanted to, they can just take him away from you. I'm not saying that's the only time some women think that way, but that is a strong motivating factor.
They know parts of him that you wish only you had knowledge
of, and although we don’t live in a perfect world, competing with other women
for your man’s affections is not something that interests any woman,not only is it childish its heartbreaking as well.. The
thought that there may always be girls who pop up out of the wood works just to
let you know that they too have once upon a time rolled in the hay with this
man you are tightly holding on to, is enough to drive any woman crazy, and we l know us women can get vicious like that. If you were a play boy/ in your
younger days, that stigma will follow you around; it will even form part of
your description, that’s what some people will know you as, because once upon a
time you conducted yourself that way. This we know to be true for women, we get
scrutinized for everything that we do and for some reason we are led
to believe that women don’t really care if a guy has slept around, when in
actual fact we do, women don’t want to build a future with a man who has no
self control and self respect, who is easily tempted and won’t think twice
about putting you, him and your future in jeopardy.Our President is proof of this, I don't even need to get into that. Whilst sleeping around
might get you the “respect” of other men, it certainly isn't a turn on for
women, who value more than just sex and appearances in a relationship, and you
sure as hell are not going to get their respect because you are a slave to your desires. Just as all men aren't the
same, it’s the same for women there are women who care a lot more about how a
man conducts himself than his ability to spend money, because a person’s
character is the basis of who they are, it is said if you want to know a man,
watch how he conducts himself . Well our guy didn't walk away with the girl, but
he did say he won’t stop trying as he really wants her in his life as he
believes they can build a future together, and during the course of this
process he has learned that you have to put boundaries in place that will not
only have people respecting you but also respecting what is yours.People will only respect you if you respect yourself and carry yourself in a respectable manner,respect is
after all earned not demanded.
Its all love...
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